After my night class I was laying around looking at Snapchat and came across a really amazing article. A blogger reveals the things you must give up in order to find inner peace – including excuses, fear, and control.
I thought it was a good read, and because snapchat trashes articles after 24 hours, I wanted it to be somewhere I could find again at a later date.
Follow these 15 things to let go of sources of pain, stress and suffering.
Here they are! (with a mix of my comments all around)
Give up the need to always be right
- Really, would you rather be right or would you rather be kind? If you feel the urge to get into an argument which you know will hurt something else (big or small), just to drive home the fact that you’re correct, take a pause. Ask yourself how much it really matters and if your ego really can’t handle just letting it go.
Give up the need to be in control
- Many people struggle with needing to be in control of every situation. It could be something that arises in your working environment, a conflict that breaks out with a stranger on the road, or even the behavior of a loved one. Allowing them to just ‘be’ and accepting that you can’t control situations or other people’s behavior will make you feel a lot calmer.
Give up on blame
- This is all about taking personal responsibility. Stop placing the blame onto others for your own feelings or for things that you don’t have in life. They may have hurt you or taken something away from you, but blaming them just dilutes your personal power and prevents you from taking responsibility for your own life.
Give up on self-defeating inner thoughts
- How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted, and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you- especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that. (yes, you really are)
Give up your limiting beliefs
- Stop telling yourself that you can’t do certain things or that what you want out of life is impossible. This will do nothing but keep you stuck in a rut.
Give up on complaining
- This is a reminder that situations can only make you feel upset if you allow them to. If you complain that something is making you feel sad, angry, or anxious rather than looking at it positively then you will experience all of those things.
- Harder than it sounds, but it is true.
Give up on criticizing
- Resist the temptation to criticize situations or people who are different to you. Realize that everyone is the same in terms of their need to be loved and their desire to be understood and that we all have dreams.
- Please just stop putting others down so that you can feel better. It really doesn’t help anyone.
Give up trying to impress people
- There’s no point trying to be something you’re not in order to make other people like you. Accepting yourself and revealing that real you will mean people are naturally drawn to you without any effort.
- I can attest to this one. Today I went to my night class in sweatpants, a sweatshirt, and no make up. I mean, I’m there to learn, right? (Or watch the world series on half of my computer screen)
Give up resisting change
- Stop seeing change as a negative and realize it’s something that will actually help you see improvements in your life.
- I can’t stress this one enough! So often I her people complaining about change and being too stubborn to just let new things happen- just think, you actually might end up enjoying the change. Crazy, right?
Give up labels
- If you see things, people, or events that you don’t understand as “weird and different” then you will never be able to grow and learn. Stop labeling those things, people, or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open.
Give up your fears
- You’ll be surprised how freeing it is if you decide to stop being afraid of a situation or person that fills you with dread. Fear is created in the mind and doesn’t exist outside of it, so you can choose not to fuel it.
- From personal experience, you can’t say that “you just can’t give up fears.” Last year and earlier this year I had a massive phobia of elevators – that’s right, elevators. It might take an excruciating amount of effort, but expose yourself to your fear and you’ll get over it. Just find the strength to expose. It’ll change your life.
Give up excuses
- For the most part, excuses do nothing but stop us from growing. Instead of improving and moving forward, they keep us stuck and lying to ourselves when lot of the time they aren’t even real.
Give up the past
- Living in the past will do nothing but prevent you enjoying the present moment. And while it’s good to have a clear vision for what you want in the future, priority should always be living in the here and now.
Give up attachment
- The moment you detach yourself from all things you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.
Give up living your life according to others’ expectations
- Too many people live their lives according to what other people think is best for them and ignore their own needs and ambitions. This can only lead to losing control and forgetting about what makes you truly happy. If you constantly please other people you will eventually end up forgetting who you are.