“You do you” is a saying that many youngsters have adopted within the past couple of years. It generally means that one should simply be themselves and not worry about what others think about them/expect of them.
To me, this saying is pretty empowering. Throughout life, especially college, people will expect things of you and wish you to be how they want you to be.
Now, let’s be clear, I’m not talking about your parents or professors here…
I’m talking about the people you see everyday. These people can be close friends, classmates, and strangers. Even without knowing it, they can be pushing you to be what they want you to be rather than what you want to be. This can be as simple as judging you for a small decision you made – especially if they may not truly understand or acknowledge the situation. These simple & small judgments and desires from other people can quickly add up and tear a person down.
So often you hear “just be yourself” and “who cares what they think?” and “they’ll get over it”
In reality, these things are much easier said than done. Naturally, we worry about how we are perceived by others. We don’t want to let anyone down. We want our friends to like us, even if that means doing something we don’t want or being someone we aren’t. I don’t mean drastic changes, but small everyday things. We don’t want drama.
Keep in mind that someone shouldn’t just only do what they want all the time, because sometimes being there for people means not doing what you want. But this can’t be all the time. You need time to just be yourself. Easier said than done, right?
Push aside those small judgments from people. Push aside those desires of you from other people. Push aside those standard expectations. They aren’t living your life, you are.
Friends should love you for who you are and care for you.
If a friend gets upset with you for not doing what they want you to do, re-evaluate. Take a step back. What was it exactly that they wanted? Big? Small? Reoccurring?
If a friend gets upset with you for not doing what they want you to do and they talk to someone else about it, re-evaluate. Take a step back. Is it justified that they want this from you? What is it like from their perspective? Would you have done the same?
This doesn’t mean dump those people on the side of the road and move on. You’re likely friends for a reason, and a good reason. Sometimes life just has its bumps and it’ll become smooth again with time. You love each other and sometimes love comes with speed bumps and rocky roads.
But life is short. Do what you feel is right. Don’t let others make decisions for you all the time. Surround yourself with people who lift you up rather than tear you down.
What I’m getting at here is that people will try to control your life. Don’t let them. Those small decisions you make everyday on what you want to do should be your decisions and not someone else’s.
I always envy those people who are so confident in themselves that nothing seems to bring them down. They rule their lives with boldness.
That’s why “you do you” … because no one else can do you like you can.
Disclaimer: this post was inspired by morning devotionals and is not targeting any individuals personally.